Wow. This month flew, seriously, so many changes, so much travel, so much anticipation and waiting.
We have a lot of answers and are still waiting on some, we will be sure to share the news as is wise but God is so good and is a great Father.
Speaking of great fathers, this one Haddon has…incredible.
At 17 months, Haddon loves his dad. He loves to wrestle on the floor with him and they do this weird growl thing. When Micah was out of town a couple days this month I assumed the wrestling role to make up for Micah not being there and Haddon tried to growl at me.
We had some sleep regression this month. I blame it on molars and both of us being out of town for a few nights. He is back to normal after a little sleep training – that involved no one picking him up and Micah going in (he is stronger than me) and rubbing his back if he did wake up.
We also had a vegetable strike. This kid used to eat frozen vegetables that I would stick on his tray. He would down some peas, frozen green beans, you name it. Not so much anymore (even if they are cooked)! I can get him to eat them if they are in macaroni. He loves some noo noos (noodles). I also have bribed him with fruit snacks… Micah wasn’t a fan of that one. Whoops.
Haddon loves to play with anything with wheels. He could play with toy cars, trains, buses, etc for hours.
He likes to sit on his potty when we sit on ours.
He doesn’t like to lean back in the bath tub to be rinsed but loves if you dump water over his head.
Haddon loves peek-a-boo. Loves it.
He likes to sit up in the rocker and read to himself.
He can stack blocks a bit better now so is starting to show some interest in that sort of play.
He really likes old Fisher Price toys (bus, phone, airplane, etc) and we have a few ornaments that match some of them. He loves them – I wonder if he will share in my affection for mini things…
We all had a stomach virus that gave no warning of its coming except – violently puking.
He likes to announce when things are yucky, dirty, broken, or dangerous. On that note, he likes to watch me sweep up his mess after meals, but sometimes he tries to help so that’s nice.
If he falls down he announces: BOOM.
Haddon is really into animal sounds right now. I love it. One of my favorites is what the rooster says. I didn’t teach it to him, so he must have learned it at the babysitter’s house. One day he looked at his farm puzzle and said coc a oood ooo. Also, don’t do it around Micah cause he doesn’t prefer it… but ask Haddon what the fox says.
Oh and one of my favorite things this month is that he says “go” – he has been saying go for a couple of months, one of his favorite books (go dog go) obviously helps him capture that one pretty well. Recently though he says it in a funny way, and I cant describe it here but I think what he means by it is “ready, set, go” because after he says it, he looks for affirmation from me and then starts running! haha I love him.
Another favorite is that he has to pray before eating. He will close his little hands and say praaaaay, then wait for you to say something, and then at the end (usually a little delayed) say amen. When I pray over him at night I just start praying but if he is still awake when I am rocking him he will say amen when I’m finished. I melt.
He also has started telling me: plaaaaay
Me: “Haddon do you think we should get a diaper change/eat/take a bath/go to bed?”
Haddon: “no, plaaaaay”
He is much more affectionate and I am eating that up. It is so rewarding after over a year of loving someone so hard to have them return the love! haha
It’s just been an interesting month that is for sure, and I’m sure the next couple will be as well.
Have you ever asked someone to put reins on you?
I did last week. I need the accountability in this season of life.
Just to name a few of the heavy on my heart things going on…
- Lots of travel – mostly personal but some for work.
- Our company is looking at new office space – long story I won’t go into online but essentially we have one of the nicest pieces of real estate in Newport News and we don’t really need it anymore.
- Our lease ends at the end of Feb and we have no idea where to (hopefully) buy because:
- My job – which a lot of you have heard and prayed with me about
- Micah’s job – we would potentially move if his job were to transfer to a new location or something like that
- We are getting the desire to add to our family if the Lord sees fit but because of all of the above I am hesitant to say, yes that sounds like a good idea! Micah doesn’t see an issue with it at all. Haha – I love his calm steadfastness in all areas of life.
So… when life seems a little out of control, I want to take control – I don’t have the reins and so I want them.
Before I was a Christian this desire to control manifested itself in a lot of unhealthy ways. This is part of what actually led me to realizing the call on my life and the surrender of self that needed to take place to the One who actually IS in control of all things.
Now that I am a Christian, this desire to control hasn’t gone away. It has just changed. I recognize it for what it is. I have more self-control (sometimes). I actually don’t worry. I do trust. However, I do still get anxious I want to know what’s next.
God has ALWAYS provided. He has always let us know what will happen when it was time and guided us sweetly. Just read about our past transitions.
I have ZERO reason to fear anything. Yet, I am anxious to know.
So last week I asked Micah to ask me the following on a regular basis:
- Did you buy anything today? Did you want to?
- How much time did you spend looking at houses?
- Did you eat?
I asked Micah to put those reins on me.
It’s been 6 years since I surrendered to the Lord, but it is a continual process.
To be able to say, I surrender ALL Lord. Where I will or won’t work, what my husband does, how many kids we have, where we live, what we do with our finances, etc.
Where do you struggle to surrender? Is it your thoughts? What you do with your time? Your money? Do you worry?
Praying that I wouldn’t hope in situations, circumstances, money, new homes, children, etc and that I would hope and rest in Him and keep my eyes fixed on eternal things. Want me to pray for you too?
5 For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence,
for my hope is from him.
6 He only is my rock and my salvation,
my fortress; I shall not be shaken.
If you have ever ridden a horse you know that having reins on a horse isn’t a bad thing. It’s all about how you guide them. If the leader is guiding gently it’s a nice ride. Sometimes we just need a little encouragement or we will go our own way or get paralyzed to where it is comfortable and eat the grass. So thankful for a husband that desires to live with his wife with understanding, even if we are so different. I love you sweets.
Gosh. I can’t even believe how much I love hanging out with a toddler. We even joke about going to wake him up at night sometimes. 8:30 just comes too fast in the evenings…
He tries to run, which has made this month ending up with a lot of bruises and cuts than previous ones.
He currently is enjoying Elmo, trains, his Melissa and Doug vehicles puzzle (he always pulls out and carries around the bus and fire truck), his fisher price toys, stacking rings (which Micah calls his squizzle stick…), the book go dog go, and the song 5 little monkeys.
He says thank you more often than not when you give him something. Sometimes even if you help get him “unstuck” or something. Talk about my heart swelling when he practices unprompted manners.
He will give “bear hugs” sometimes. It involves growling and squeezing real tight.
This month I have really seen reciprocal affection. He gives kisses and hugs, and calls for you, etc. When we play chase or tackle. He will say “gotcha” if he is doing the tackling. One time was when I was trying to do a downward dog to my yoga dvd – I guess I was in a vulnerable position! This is the best and I never want it to end.
He also has been laughing a lot more than I remember. I feel like he has always been a relatively happy child but he is also a serious little sage! Which is why in almost all pictures he is just staring straight at the camera. He concentrates hard and when the phone/camera comes out there is only one thing on his mind: button.
Haddon just LOVES babies. Every time he sees a baby he wants to hug them. We are working on him being gentle because he is so affectionate with them, much more than with adults! I love it for the most part and pray that he will be like that when he has a sibling.
Haddon’s vocabulary is continuing to explode, so much so that I don’t even try to keep track anymore unfortunately. He tries to repeat most things, so there is a lot he can say – even if it’s not the most accurately pronounced yet.
Probably one of my favorite things about this past month has been: association.
He “gets” things now.
Here are some examples:
1) Playing with blocks:
Me: “Haddon, look there is a train on this side of your block.”
Haddon: “train” – then he scurried to his room and brought me the book, The Little Engine that Could.
Me: “Haddon you are going to see Miss Jessie and the girls today!”
Haddon: “Dazeeee” – Daisy is Jessie’s daughter
Me: “Haddon you are going to see Miss Dawn and your friends today!”
Haddon: “Zeeeeke”, “No No” (Noelle), “baby” – Zeke, Noelle, and baby Robin and Charlotte are his friends at Miss Dawn’s house
3) After Mindy leaving our house (Mindy is one of our friends and neighbor and used to watch Haddon, she lives across the street about 4 houses down).
Haddon: looking outside to the left of our storm door. “Mimi, go? Baby?”
4) Micah went to Colorado for a few days:
Haddon: “Dada? Go?”
Me: “Daddy went bye-bye on a plane”
Haddon: looks to the sky, points and says “dada”
and for my all time favorite….
In the car we practice ABCs, sing wheels on the bus, 5 lil monkeys, etc but we will also just practice talking and so I try to get halleluyah as part of his vocabulary. He has no idea what it means yet but he will try to say it back and its so cute.
The other day a song was on the radio at home and the chorus just sung the word halleluyah in different notes, he stopped playing, looked up and said “hawehuya”. I teared up and then smothered him with kisses and words of affirmation – “yes Haddon, he is singing that! good job son” etc.
We are crazy about this kid.
not for long, but it was still so so wonderful.
We haven’t gone on a hike or camped as a family since April.
Saturday we retreated to the Western part of the state for some much needed resetting.
I agreed (the day before) to go on this adventure if a) the camping spots were legal (don’t ask), b) whatever hike we did – Haddon could walk around some too (he loves his pack but he is at the age where he wants to explore too).
I should have also asked about bathrooms… anyway.
Micah took us to a little spot in the George Washington National Forest right beyond Buena Vista and it was so nice.
We ended up getting a later start than anticipated and had some logistical stuff to figure out so we did a pretty short hike but it was just right for the amount of time we had and it was perfect for Haddon. He had the best time walking on the trail, singing songs as we hiked, and throwing rocks with Micah.
The time reminded me of when Micah and I first were dating and I loved his long beard, hair, bandana wearing, campfire smelling, nature loving self. Its always good to be refreshed and remember the sparks that were kindled back when it was just you two. We cuddled and talked by the fire (that he worked so hard to build – I love seeing him in his element) as Haddon slept inside his little tent in our tent.
It wasn’t all beautiful – as much as Haddon liked the day before he was not a happy camper when we woke up. I don’t know if he was cold, hungry, out of his element, etc but I ended up taking him to the car for 5 rounds of go dog go and wheels on the bus while Micah packed up.
let me know if anyone wants tips on traveling to hike/camp with toddlers. I am learning along the way and can offer what I have so far!
I love mountains and I love my guys.
I may have left my camera phone alone but that doesn’t mean I didn’t document, enjoy a few of my favorites!
I try to be very careful about not getting wrapped up in what the internet has deemed as “mom wars”. Especially, because I am both – I do my darn hardest job raising Haddon and I work outside the home.
I try to just be who I am and be where the Lord has called me to be right now. As we all should. Don’t get me wrong I struggle with this weekly but I do try.
Be considerate of others but you can’t please everyone and you shouldn’t expect to (except God and probably your husband’s preferences if possible).
If the picture of your perfect Pinterest craft makes you really excited about what you did with your kid that day – don’t not post it to Instagram because some moms feel bad they don’t do crafts. On the other hand, don’t do the craft if only to post it to Instagram.
If you are a working mom – don’t glorify yourself because you are so busy and can handle so much.
If you are a stay at home mom – don’t glorify yourself because you have the responsibility and privilege of “just” taking care of your kids all day. (btw – I say that “just” with all its awesome implications. I know taking care of kids all day is some of the most exhausting work there is.)
We should not glory one job over the other, just like we shouldn’t glory one spiritual gift over the other, etc.
Let’s call it what it is – we want to feel valued. We want to feel important. We want our jobs to be recognized.
Let’s all do ourselves a favor and glorify the only one worth glorifying – Christ.
Let’s also be grateful FOR one another and TO God and try our darndest to be thankful and content in whatever circumstance He has us in right now.
Let’s do everything for Him, not ourselves. Whichever self we might find ourselves in right now.
And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
1 Corinthians 10:31
So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
I’m not quite sure where to start and how much info to give. I don’t even have all the details yet…
The main part of this news is that… I thought I was going to get laid off yesterday and instead my boss and manager offered me a new job.
I will remain in the same training/design field creating instructional material and using my degree, working with my co-workers from the last few years on the same contract, reporting to the same office every day (for now), I will just be getting my benefits and pay from another company. So I won’t be a C2 employee anymore. That makes me a little sad because I’ve really enjoyed my first job.
However, in this economy – you work where you can to help provide for your family.
So to say I was shocked would be an understatement.
I even told my boss and manager that I have had a box in my car for a week (they kind of laughed).
Once again, my good Father shows me that in NO way, shape, or form can I come up with my own plans. By the way, I have been trying to come up with a plan for the last couple months. Well, let’s be honest my whole life really.
I have prayed about quitting… but Micah and I weren’t on the same page with that quite yet.
I expected to get laid off.
Never in a million years did I think that this would be an option.
I can look at it as “they let me go” or “they traded me” but you know what I am looking at it as… my God is good and so gentle in transitioning my life and just gave me a job for the foreseeable next 9 months without me having to apply or interview for one.
Consider my mind blown. I don’t even know what to say, but just thank you.
One of the reasons I am super excited… is because even though I will be reporting to the same office for now, there is huge potential to telecommute in the future. If there is one “career goal” this mama has – it is to be able to be as available as possible for my family.
I always told Micah if he felt like I was slacking in any home responsibilities – I would quit working right away – no questions asked. He doesn’t feel that way though and especially while we just have Haddon right now, I think it’s great if I can still help contribute towards the family income, and be able to maintain work/life balance.
I’m just speechless; except for … thank you Abba. You are too good to us.
I start tomorrow – but at my same desk, with a couple of my favorite “co-workers”.
It’s been a whirlwind of another month pumpkin!
Fall is approaching and with that means lots of full weekends of fall fun.
Probably most significant this month is that this month held the record for longest we have ever been away from you.
At first I thought it would be hardest on me, because you are very easily entertained. By day 4 I think you missed me. Good thing I was coming back that day. Daddy sent me a ridiculously sad but cute video of you looking for me and turning your hands up asking “go?” – which you do whenever anything you like leaves your sight.
As if you didn’t ask where everything “goes” before – it’s so much more now! No one can leave the room without you asking where “go”? We tell you we or they are coming back though and then you excitedly shake your head yes and say “back”. I can’t really tell what you understand with it but you know that “back” is a good thing.
You have had a little trouble with me leaving since I went away… more than you ever have before. Normally, I could leave you and I would be lucky if you hugged me goodbye. I am hoping you return to your carefree little self soon. Except, we are both leaving you next month for a wedding but I am sure you will stay very distracted with all the things NYC has to offer with grandma and aunt Stephanie. They mentioned buses and carousels!
You have gotten a little bit pickier when it comes to food lately… but it’s an unpredictable pickiness. So I’m not sure what that is all about yet.
One thing is for sure when it comes to your taste buds, you absolutely love spaghetti.
You also enjoy eating entire apples. As if you are an adult or something, you like to hold it because it is similar in shape and sound to “ball” and then you eat the whole thing down to the core.
One of my favorite things to do is when I get home and ask you if you want a cracker. I do this for multiple reasons… some may say it is bribery. You are usually so enamored with your toys that you don’t want to snuggle but the cabinet that holds your crackers is up high and you let me hold you to get them. Then you hang out with me while we eat a few. You have started asking me for them if I get home after you so I think you are catching on! It’s a shame I didn’t start this little ritual with celery or carrots or something… oh well.
You like to get out your “boom” which is kept where mommy keeps her broom, you kind of help… but not really. I like your efforts though!
We love to play hide and seek and chase each other around the house. Except… you don’t entirely get it yet. You only run from me for so long and then you start laughing hysterically and run practically falling into my arms. It is so fun!
There are so many things I am looking forward to this season with you – camping, more apple picking, pumpkin farms, chili tasting, introducing you to the best foods ever, snuggling with you around fires and watching your eyes filled with delight as you cautiously say “hot”, wearing long sleeves and matching boots.
You make life so fun little one!
I felt a tug this morning driving to work, like today might be important or something.
I checked my calendar… bible study tonight. That’s special but I don’t feel a tug every Tuesday.
Then I checked my calendar from 2012.
One whole year since I went back to work after my maternity leave.
There is so so much I could say about what I have learned – good and bad about myself.
I don’t want to just talk about myself in this post though.
I also want to thank the ladies who care for my son while I am away from him 40+ hours a week.
Haddon has had a handful of caregivers this year.
Katie, Mindy, Jessie, and Dawn…
Haddon is who he is because of all of us.
We nurture him differently. We feed him differently. We play with him differently. We love him differently. Yet we all care for him.
Words don’t adequately express how much I have needed you this year. How Micah, Haddon, and I have needed you.
I can go to work without anxiety because the Lord has helped protect my heart and mind from worry. He has used ya’ll to help take those worries from me.
As you may or may not be able to tell… I’m slightly type A and a little bit of a control freak.
The Lord has worked with me on this though… and one of the ways He does this is allowing me to truly and genuinely believe I am not in control of my child’s life, He is. To me that means no matter who is with him, the Lord is Haddon’s ultimate caretaker.
He has allowed you sweet ladies to help me feel secure in his well-being Monday through Fridays.
That’s a big lesson for me to learn… control. You have helped me learn one of the most valuable lessons I think I ever will.
Thanks for being a part of my sanctification.
I trust you all and appreciate you so much.
I also love that you know him and can share in the joy Haddon’s life brings. That I can talk to you about him. That I can message, call, and ask for pictures and you don’t think I’m crazy (or do you…?) That I can call and ask you for advice because you know his normals and you know his wackies.
Thank you for loving and serving our family the way you do in this season of life.
So I think the tug on my heart is a little bit of sadness that he is growing so quickly, but also a whole lot of gratefulness. A whole year’s worth.
Trace, she’s got a mouth
My dad used to say this all the time. It comes from a funny WI neighbor that he lived next to growing up. Trace (Theresa) is my grandma Schneider and this neighbor lady used to always tell her what to do.
Anyway, the message is: use your mouth (carefully of course). If you don’t ask, you will never know.
Here are the following examples of where I have said you know what… I or someone else purchased this product and it shouldn’t be messed up already. So I always email or get on live chat because I truly don’t love being on the phone and I just tell the deal and the following companies this year have been amazing and I would recommend their products for many reasons, but in a heartbeat because of their customer service.
SKIP HOP – diaper bag
Problem: My original diaper bag for Haddon was starting to fray after less than a year.
Excellent Service: Sent me $80 credit
PLAN TOYS – a toy camera
Problem: was missing a piece
Excellent Service: Sent me a new one. So I am saving the original to give away. It still is a cute toy with the missing piece!
SASSY – a Mickey mouse sippy cup
Problem: paint started to wear off
Excellent Service: sent me a new one
SAUDER FURNITURE – my night stand
Problem: the top started to “bubble” maybe from hot drinks?
Excellent Service: Sent a new top piece
KIDCO – a peapod tent
Problem: I jacked it up to the point of no return trying to fold it
Excellent Service: First they sent a “how to fix it video” when it still didn’t return to its normal shape they sent a new one.
Due to how these representatives and their companies treated me. I will go back. I will tell my many prego friends to use their products, etc. That is how you stay in business, have a good name, and a thriving company – be nice to people, have them like you, have good products.
No one wants to go to a place where you are a number, people don’t respond to you, or worse treat you rudely.
Micah and I had a gift card we received for our two year anniversary. We didn’t use it at the time because Haddon was 5 days old so we got tropical smoothies and took a (light) walk instead. We decided to use it this year as it had no expiration date.
To those who know Micah and I you know that we don’t go out to eat a lot and if we do we aren’t going to get crab cakes dishes and fancy extras. We had a gift card though so we splurged a little.
It was very surprising when our wonderful waitress who had taken very good care of us all night, said she couldn’t take the gift card anymore but could give us 10% off. Um, what? So I asked to speak to the manager. I worked in a restaurant for years and I know there are more ways than that to make the customer happy. So she came out told us a story about how new management had taken over, but the old owner hadn’t left the funds for all these gift cards he sold. Well, that was a sad situation but not one I should be responsible for when there was no indication (read no sign saying they didn’t honor them, etc). So she said she could get the new owner out to talk if we wanted, so I said yes, please – someone gave us a $50 gift card, and I don’t want their money wasted. She got a little tiffy after that and asked if I wanted our meal to come out of her salary. She went to get her manager and when she came back she didn’t have him and said, yall are good you can leave and started to go back inside. We said wait we have a remaining balance and she waved at us annoyed said no you don’t and pulled the waitress back inside with her! We left the waitress a note encouraging her she did a good job but sorry for the confusion and left her a $20.
I’ve never been treated so poorly from a manager, even though they had comped our whole meal they made us feel like the worst customers and because of it I will never go back and I will never recommend my friends go there.
I won’t tell you where because I don’t want to bash the restaurant honestly, but it was in Yorktown, VA. Hopefully, it was just a bad day and I’m sure it was annoying the switching of ownership didn’t mention the gift cards. I did learn that day to ask about gift cards upfront before ordering.
I’m so glad I was taught to use my mouth. It goes a long way in helping your money be well spent.
I incorporated lemon water and apple cider vinegar into my normal routine.
My three reasons:
1) Diuretic and cleansing properties
2) Helps control sugar levels
3) Promotes alkalinity
It started when I couldn’t eat eggs anymore. I used to eat eggs almost every morning and all of a sudden coffee and eggs were the deadliest mixture for my stomach. I did some research and figured maybe it was too acidic for me now.
So I started trying to counteract that since there was no way I was not having my morning coffee! It started with the lemon water which helped my pH balance tremendously. Then my sister in law recommended the cider.
I haven’t had stomach issues in months and feel great. I still do love desserts but I don’t “crave” sugar like I used to.
Use real lemon juice and cider with “the mother”.
“The mother” – basically its fermented and not ultra- pasteurized (which burns all the good nutrition out of it).
My dad has been using Braggs for years. I used to think he was weird. I get it now. Does that make me weird too? So be it. I feel good.
Try it out for a couple weeks. You won’t regret it and it won’t break your bank.
PRO: How good I feel
CON: The cider tastes nasty if you take the cider straight up, which can also cause enamel issues (I started mixing mine with water)